Just read a very interesting article in the Oprah Magazine on decision-making and thought I should share with you all.
We often spend a long time and a lot of energy making sure that we make the right decision and sometimes we realize we made a mistake right the second we make that decision. Martha Beck explains how to halt the hesitation and move forward with certainty. She uses the example of Claire, her patient who is not decisive and she makes an interesting observation on Claire frustration: Claire’s exhaustion did not spring from making decision; it came from not deciding-from vacillating, fretting, seeking endless advice.” How many times were we all in that situation?
Here are some great points in the article:
“Great strategists trust both intellect and instinct; they gather information until they feel they can make a good decision.”
Indeed, she teaches us to listen to our body and learn our “body truth.” so basically, you try to remember the time when you made a decision that you regretted. Note how you felt physically. Then think of a moment when you said no to someone and then regretted it. Then recall when you made the right decision and how you felt about it. According to Martha Beck, those sensations are often consistent.
” If you’re miserable, make a choice . If you’re still miserable, you can choose again.”
Often what stops us from making decisions is the fear of not getting another chance. What if the you are the driver of your own car which is your life? I also watched Elizabethtown this weekend and I felt like there could not be a better way to explain how to accept failure in life. I think that the bottom line is:
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.” Steve Jobs