Motivation Monday: Self-care

I have learned in the past few years that when I lack motivation in doing things, or “I don’t care” comes up a lot in my conversations, My brain is begging me for self-care.

Whether I like it or not, I take care of others every day, in my personal life and at work. And the truth is that I have not mastered a routine that will keep me centered and grounded.

“So often we take care of everybody and the whole time we’re putting ourselves on the back burner. This is the season for you to ‘do you’ first.” Lisa Nichols

How I would love to just make a public service announcement and say that I am doing me! lol

It is not that simple and easy but I found these tips that are doable for me so I thought I would share…

According to Greatist, mental health professionals recommend that we take at least 20 minutes a day to do something for ourselves.

I can find 20 minutes in the morning, during the day (if I start taking my lunch) and at the end of the day. So what can I possibly do for 20 whole minutes? I came up with this short list

  1. Read the book that I started but did not finish: “Let Go, Let Miracles Happen” The Art of Spiritual Surrender” by Kathy Cordova
  2. Dance around
  3. Go for a walk if the weather permits
  4. Meditate? (I can barely last 5 minutes but I downloaded a 22 minutes meditation that I always skip on my playlist
  5. journal about what I am grateful for.

Can you think of anything else? feel free to share. Hope you have a successful week.

Gratitude is hard to do… when you are tired

Today, I was supposed to write about something that I’m grateful for. Well I thought about it all day and nothing seemed spectacular enough for me to share with the world.

Well! finally made peace with my day and realized that there was way too much going on for me to reflect on my blessings.

So here goes my short list of things that I’m grateful for:

  1. As achy as every muscle in my body was, I got up and got things done.
  2. Although not herself, my child was well enough to go to the daycare and I was able to go to work.
  3. I got closure on a case at work that got me all anxious since yesterday 
  4. As slow as the trains and the buses were today, I made it home safe at the end of the day
  5. I am not hungry, I am not cold and I’m still breathing.

And writing this was an incredibly therapeutic thing to do. It was a good day to be alive 

Motivation Monday: Be persistent

How many times did you find yourself giving up on something that means a lot to you?

I recently read The Compound effect by Darren Hardy and I learned how small steps add up to a great result. There are many areas that I want to improve in my life.  Lately, my health has been on my mind and I realized that I have not been persistent in improving my health. I often fire myself up to change things and after many efforts, when I do not see immediate results, I give up. I wish to change that.

This week I will keep going back to this quote by Morgan Freeman. After learning a little more about the actor, I feel that I can keep him in mind as an image of persistence. Morgan Freeman was born on June 1, 1937, in Memphis, Tennessee; Morgan experience racism, poverty, etc.

” The best way to guarantee a loss is to quit.” Morgan Freeman

His talent for acting was discovered quite early in his life (he was 12 years old). What I find impressive was that he did not hesitate to start over when he realized that the Air Force was not “his thing.”

Although things were not easy when he decided to go back to acting, he persisted in the pursuit of his success and became a Hollywood star in 1987 in the film Street Smart.  I think it is important that emphasize that Morgan Freeman achieved success at the sweet age of 50. Personally, I find that inspirational.

At my age, I am constantly reminded of the things that I was supposed to achieve by now and real stories like Morgan Freeman’s encourage me to focus more on the journey.

Feel free to read more about Morgan Freeman’s life here.

I hope you take a moment to remember that dream, passion or goal that keeps popping up into your mind, I hope you write it down and I hope you remind yourself that you cannot win if you never try.

have a successful week everyone!


Gratitude moment

I complain a lot about my commute time and the more I complain, the more I hate it so I am trying something new. I am going to find things to be grateful about when I commute.

Every time that I take the train, I get to enjoy this view:

Today I choose to compare this to God’s love. How infinite it is despite my flaws and my shortcomings. 

That put a smile on my face and pulled up my spine.

I got this…

Motivation Monday! Maya Angelou

I go to quotes often for encouragement and wisdom. Occasionally, I google the authors to know what they have been through in their lives.

Today, I am inspired by Dr. Maya Angelou as I step out to go to work.

“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”
Maya Angelou, Letter to My Daughter

I wondered, how can Maya Angelou think of being a rainbow in someone’s cloud after all that she has been through?

Maya Angelou
Poet and novelist Maya Angelou Tuesday, Sept 12, 2006, in Mobile, Ala. (AP Photo/Press-Register, John David Mercer)


Maya Angelou (full name Marguerite Annie Johnson) was born on April 4, 1928, in Missouri. In addition to racism, She was raped at 7 by her mother’s boyfriend. She was traumatized and stopped speaking for over 5 years. While others would have given up on everything, she still pushed through. A single mother at 16, she worked a number of jobs to support herself and her child. her career too off in the 1950’s (she was in her thirties) and the rest is history that you can explore more BIOGRAPHY.

Maya Angelou passed 2 weeks after my daughter was born and I remember she was a rainbow in my cloud when I watched Oprah’s tribute to her on Super Soul Sunday.

As I start this new week, I will remember that just like I had many people put rainbows in my clouds, I can make someone’ day, however small the act is. I hope you do the same and I hope you tell me all about it in the comments.

Have a successful week everyone!


Moving on…

Wow! It’s been that long since I wrote…I have been on a journey.

3 yeats ago, my perfectly planned life was picked up, shaken and turned upside down. I confided in people that I knew love me and they told me that I have to “move on.” Well, I have been trying to move on since then… And I tried to follow the steps that I discussed in my last post on “letting go.”

It took me about a year to let go…

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Yes! I kept believing in the good… I kept believing that I am a good person.This is just a temporary turbulence. Many got frustrated with me in this stage. To be honest with you, I am glad I still went through it because I now have a long list of “why I cannot go back to where I was.” I also saw the fighter in me because I had to fight so hard to let go and be free.

Thinking back, I was arrogant as well. Seriously! Why did I think that I was too good to be hurt? especially when I hurt myself (mentally and emotionally) constantly. Let’s just say I was humbled when I found reason again.


Those who know me will testify that I have no problem expressing my pain and my responsibility. That part was already something that I have been practicing for years.

I agree with this…

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I made peace with that voice inside me that keeps reminding me that it was somehow my fault. I thought that I was nice and honest so nothing bad will ever happen to me. I now stare at my mistakes and acknowledge them. And part of self-love is remembering that it is OK! Because it was a mistake, and people make mistakes all the time.

So I took responsibility and accepted that I was doing many wrong things which led me to rock bottom. Luckily, I am being offered the chance to get up again and start over.

“Reason lost the battle, and all I could do was surrender and accept I was in love.”
Paulo Coelho

I fell in love with me again, my sweet, beating kind heart. I fell in love with my weakness and my resistance to hatred and revenge. I fell in love with my creator and all the little miracles in my life that I have missed for so long. Simply and purely, I found love, true, raw and painful love.Because I chose LOVE.

As a result, I found it easy to forgive… It is easier to move, laugh, cry because I found real love.

So when you find yourself in a place where there is a need to move on, I suggest that you stop paying so much attention to the outside ( the person (s), the thing (s) or entity) that is hurting you and making you feel like you need to move on. I suggest that you make peace with “what is”,  acknowledge it, greet is and have a conversation with it.

Then find love… Not necessarily in someone else or something else. But in yourself.  Find love in that voice inside you and it will stop whispering and start shouting.

If you like reading, you might want to check out the book When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chödrön

“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”
Pema Chödrön

Have you moved on lately or are you moving on? If yes, what helped you?


Letting go…

Hello friends,

Ever experienced that moment when you feel like you are stuck and lost? We all different ways of reacting to such a feeling. Some people get upset, bitter and angry. Others get sick and depressed. Others become reckless, take risk, “live life to the fullest.”

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Found here

I choose to be happy, I chose to move on, let go of the negative thoughts and feelings, cherish the positive thoughts and great memories and cherish what I have right this moment. I like to learn from others so I read others on how they think one could let go. In Learning to Let Go of Past Hurts: 5 Ways to Move On Dr. Grohol gives, in my opinion, doable steps.

  1. Make the decision to let it go
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Found here

This is the hardest stage I think. We always have this hope that something is going to change. A miracle, the other person: your boss, your ex (whoever it is that hurt you so bad) will have an epiphany and they will come back. And when they do, we will either make them suffer and beg for our forgiveness or we will have that final opportunity to say “no!” No one will make this decision for you but you will be thankful to yourself that you decided to let it go!

2. Express your pain and your responsibility

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Found here

It’s OK to cry, and show vulnerability. I personally cannot hold things inside. It ends up being poisonous so I talk about it when I find the opportunity. Dr. Grohol suggest writing a letter that you never send, that is an idea too.

Expressing my responsibility is hard but I do it anyway not to beat myself up for my mistakes but to learn and to grow.

3. Stop being the victim and blaming others:

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Found Here

“No amount of rumination of analyses have ever fixed a relationship problem. Never. Not in the entirety of the world’s history. So why choose to engage in so much thought and devote so much energy to a person who you feel has wronged you?” Dr. Grohol

4.Focus on the present

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Found Here

5. Forgive them and yourself

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Found Here

Happy new year!

Welcome 2015!

2014 has been a roller coaster for me. I went through life changing events and I feel like I am stronger but also so cautious about everything I do or say.

Every end of the year, I do take time to reflect on how I spent my year, whether I improved or took a few steps back. Then I remind myself that If I failed, it is okay, it is also proof that I tried. In 2014, I was loved and cherished. Many people in my life made gestures that confirmed to me that I am a good person and I am surrounded by good people. I also welcomed a new member in my family, the love of my life and my source of joy. I also lost someone that I did not learn to love and appreciate until very recently: my uncle. I find comfort in the fact that I had the privilege to experience his genuine love. My uncle also inspired me to never settle for less than what I want regardless of the difficulties. It is selfish to wish that he was here but I know that he is resting wherever he is and effectively being the angel that he has always been.

That is the summary of my year. I found a good outline of how to make the end of the year reflections and thought I should share.

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Found here

An now, I would like to wish you a very happy new year using the words of Neil Gaiman.

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Found here

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